I attended a personal growth workshop recently and was reminded of an important idea: that the conversations we have about the world and about our circumstances create our reality. Here’s a simple example. If we get up in the morning and tell ourselves that we’re going to have a great day, we almost inevitably will. Conversely, if we tell ourselves that we’re going to have a terrible day, we’ll get that instead. We create our reality by what we say.
This may sound Pollyanna-ish, but it isn’t. Our attitudes and perceptions are powerful tools, and we have choice in how we craft them and how we use them. This is vitally important for those of us in recovery from addiction. We want to be in conversations that empower us, that serve us well, rather than in conversations that defeat us. This applies both to self-talk and to our talk with others. If I talk about abstinence as too hard, as impossible, it will be. If I talk about abstinence as doable and desirable, it can be.
Don’t get me wrong. Cravings are unpleasant and the old grooves in our brain are eager to be revived. Habits are powerful things and creating new ones takes time. But we can support our new habits with empowering talk about how we can do this, one meal, one bite at a time.
Are your conversations about recovery healthy ones?